被麻省理工退学是我人生里最好的一次经历

Failing out of MIT was one of the best things that ever happened to me

by Shataakshi Dube, failed out of MIT, Nov 16, 2015 Upvoted by Latasha Boyd, MIT Admissions Counselor and Kah Keng Tay, MIT ’08
https://www.quora.com/What-is-it-like-to-burn-out-as-a-student-at-MIT

goodgoodstudy编者按:本文讲述了作者从进入麻省理工(MIT)全A的乖乖女到被退学,到找到了自己的兴趣重新振作起来拿到全优毕业并攻读神经生物学博士的心路,经历过程。本文得到了MIT入学办公室和校友的推荐。

 

看点和思考:为什么有些孩子到了中学或者大学某个阶段就后继无力了(burnt out)?如何能让孩子拥有学习的永远热情和动力? 放手给孩子自由去找到自己热爱的发展方向。观察了解孩子在学习生活中的焦虑,压力。

 

编者最近访问一家私立英国私立中学了解到类似这样的例子。两个被某文法学校退学的孩子在水平相当不如的私立中学了找回了自己的信心和学习方法。没有统一适合所有人的学校和学习方法,找到自己的兴趣和信心是最重要的。后来这两位学生双双考入牛津。

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The worst part is, I did all of this to myself, and extended it unecessarily long. I lied to everyone – myself, my friends, even my parents. They had no idea I was struggling. They thought I was getting all A’s, like I always did. I remember one time, my younger cousin came over and asked me how I dealt with not getting A’s (she had just entered college), and I straight up lied. I told her I didn’t know, because that had never happened to me. Why didn’t I tell anyone? I don’t know. I was ashamed. I didn’t want my friends to think I was stupid. I didn’t want to let my parents down, because I loved them. I also feared them. Hated them.

I was angry at myself, and at them, but the low credit limit was actually a blessing in disguise. Since I had so much free time, I decided to join a biology lab with my professor from the first semester. And I LOVED it. I started doing research ~35 hours a week, and I realized – this is what I want to do! I want to be a scientist! I finally had a goal, and internal motivation, and I decided I would do my absolute best to make it come true. I kept working, day by day, on both school and research. It was hard, and it was humbling. My parents and I had a lot of emotions and anger to deal with. Through sheer determination, I made it. This past May, I graduated with highest honors, and now I am fortunate enough to have started my PhD in neurobiology.
Though it ended up taking me 5 years to graduate from college, I can say now that failing out of MIT was one of the best things that ever happened to me. I realized that a person is NOT their grades. I realized how much my parents love me (and I never could have recovered without their support), and I think we finally understand each other. I finally discovered my passion in life, and now I get to put together my intense curiosity for biology with my love for math!

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评论:

Dave Reynolds (116 votes)

I’m so happy that this was one of the ways you learned how much your parents love and support you. That alone is worth the struggle.
Mark Schneider (59 votes):
Thanks for your story, You confirmed my views. Never study for someone else or because what the job market tells you. One should always study what you love. Its impossible otherwise to read those thousand and thousand of pages if you are not completely dedicated (curious) and have piece  (sic: peace) of mind.