Failing out of MIT was one of the best things that ever happened to me
by Shataakshi Dube, failed out of MIT, Nov 16, 2015 Upvoted by Latasha Boyd, MIT Admissions Counselor and Kah Keng Tay, MIT ’08
看点和思考：为什么有些孩子到了中学或者大学某个阶段就后继无力了(burnt out)？如何能让孩子拥有学习的永远热情和动力？ 放手给孩子自由去找到自己热爱的发展方向。观察了解孩子在学习生活中的焦虑，压力。
The worst part is, I did all of this to myself, and extended it unecessarily long. I lied to everyone – myself, my friends, even my parents. They had no idea I was struggling. They thought I was getting all A’s, like I always did. I remember one time, my younger cousin came over and asked me how I dealt with not getting A’s (she had just entered college), and I straight up lied. I told her I didn’t know, because that had never happened to me. Why didn’t I tell anyone? I don’t know. I was ashamed. I didn’t want my friends to think I was stupid. I didn’t want to let my parents down, because I loved them. I also feared them. Hated them.
I was angry at myself, and at them, but the low credit limit was actually a blessing in disguise. Since I had so much free time, I decided to join a biology lab with my professor from the first semester. And I LOVED it. I started doing research ~35 hours a week, and I realized – this is what I want to do! I want to be a scientist! I finally had a goal, and internal motivation, and I decided I would do my absolute best to make it come true. I kept working, day by day, on both school and research. It was hard, and it was humbling. My parents and I had a lot of emotions and anger to deal with. Through sheer determination, I made it. This past May, I graduated with highest honors, and now I am fortunate enough to have started my PhD in neurobiology.
Though it ended up taking me 5 years to graduate from college, I can say now that failing out of MIT was one of the best things that ever happened to me. I realized that a person is NOT their grades. I realized how much my parents love me (and I never could have recovered without their support), and I think we finally understand each other. I finally discovered my passion in life, and now I get to put together my intense curiosity for biology with my love for math!
Read the whole article (全文阅读): What is it like to burn out as a student at MIT
Keep looking for the times in your life when you find your desire wandering to something different for a significant amount of time. That can be an indicator that you need to go in a different direction. Be wary of assuming that just because your work and life today are enjoyable that the combination will always please and satisfy you.
Look out for inflection points in your life and respond to them. If you ignore the opportunity to discover what’s going on, you might miss even more fulfilment. This is what the mid-life crisis is about…