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I am the founder of https://goodgoodstudy.uk/. My full-time job as a software engineer affords me to create this project. I was born in China, for the last 17 years I have been living and settled in England. We have three children. My eldest son is in year 5 (2016). My youngest son was born in 2016.

家长来信 - 关于家长代表和我如何把3娃全送进著名文法学校

按语: 我第一次见到Teresa的时候,是我们到娃的小学义工。刷刷漆,收拾课室。那是7年前。前几天因为儿子去RSB(英国某著名文法中学), 又见到她. 也是在做义工.这才知道她的三个孩子都进了本地两所著名中学。
后来我问她:“你是如何做到的?”, “你10多年做学校家长代表,你有什么经验和大家分享?” 这是她给我的回信 (原文英文)。

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Hi

Sorry about the slow response.

 

With regards to trying to encourage the children’s learning I don’t
think we have done anything in particular. We have showed interest in their school work and I think that one way of showing that you find school important is to help at school. Even if work hinders you from helping with the parent reading you can make sure you contribute to the fundraising efforts that the PSA (按:家长协会) and the school make.

 

When they were smaller I always made sure that the day ended with me reading to them and in the summer holidays we would take part in the reading challenge at the library. We would also go to charity shops and they got to pick books, just for them to maybe try something new. When they were independent readers we would encourage them to read before going to sleep, even if I had read to them earlier.

 

In preparation for the entrance exam to the grammar schools I asked other parents what they did and most started tutoring at beginning of year 4. The children would see the tutor for one hour a week and usually get 3 pieces of homework that took about 30 min each. Nearer the exam they would sit a mock exam, just to get used to the test situation and sitting surrounded by strangers. The boys did one mock test, whereas my daughter wanted to do two, as her friends were doing more than one.

 

When they were younger we would limit screen time and we would have Monday to Wednesday as screen free days with no TV or computer games. Now that is more difficult as they need the computer to do homework. We still limit the time spend playing games, but less successfully than when they were younger…

 

I don’t really know how to encourage parents to volunteer in school, I think our primary are quite lucky as they have lots of parents who
are happy to help. As the children grow older though, it is more
difficult to find reader volunteers as parents go back to work.

 

We are indeed going to K in September. S***** as a student, and I
will start my new job as biology technician at K. We are both
looking forward to it.

 

I’m sure I’ll see you at events at RBS. I am usually in the
uniform shop at the bigger PTA events and Andrew does the BBQ-ing. We also try to attend any quiz night that is arranged as they are good fun and the boys can take part if they wish.

 

Have a lovely summer holiday.

Teresa

时间管理:八分钟自我控制提高学习成效

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决定孩子智力水平的惊人发现

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推荐:兰迪·波许的最后一课:实现你的童年梦想

 

from Wikipedia,  维基百科中文

“兰迪”·波许

兰道夫·弗雷德里克(英语:Randolph Frederick Randy Pausch,1960年10月23日-2008年7月25日)是美国卡内基梅隆大学的计算机科学、人机交互及设计教授。2006年9月,他被诊断患有胰腺癌。尽管进行了手术和化疗,他还是于2007年8月被告知癌细胞已经转移至肝脏及脾脏,至多可以再存活3到6个月[1]。波许于2008年7月25日过世,享年47岁。

 

介绍

美国很多高校在资深教授退休前都会为他们安排讲授一堂面向全校学生的“最后一课”,表达学校师生对其的崇敬和感激,让教授为自己的教学生涯划上一个完美的句号。卡内基梅隆大学将其命名为“旅程(Journey)”,希望演讲者能和听众一起分享自己的个人或学术旅程。波许虽然还没有准备退休,但是鉴于他的病情,他在2007年9月18日做了题为:“真正实现你的童年梦想”的最后一课.

演讲分为三个部分:

波许自己的童年梦想及他是如何逐一实现的;

  • 体验零重力
  • 参加NFL比赛
  • 编写大百科全书条目(其中特别提到了维基百科全书)
  • 成为Star Trek中的柯克船长
  • 赢取游乐场的超大毛绒玩具
  • 成为迪士尼幻想工程的工程师

波许如何通过开设“构建虚拟世界”课程、创建娱乐技术中心和开发Alice软件帮助别人实现梦想,并感受其中的快乐;讲述关于生活态度、学习、团队合作等的人生经验。演讲过程中,波许风趣幽默,将人生哲理寓于浅显事例。

 

要点笔记(不齐)

  • The brick walls are there for a reason. They’re not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Brick walls are there to prove our dedication.
  • “Experience is what you learned when you didn’t get what you want”. **

  • (In educating students, mentoring) Find the best in everybody, no matter how you have to wait for them to show it.

  • Head Fake learning – stands for the form of learning that is not obvious at first sight. Students think they are learning something about matter a but are, in fact, learning something about matter b. On a bigger scale this could even be a different subject or – on a meta level – about how to live life. (ref)

  • Archive your childhood dreams is how to live your life.

父母吵架伤害的不止是感情 还有孩子的健康

BBC 调研报导

要点

  • 家里发生的一切都潜移默化地影响孩子的心理健康到学习成绩以及未来的各种人际关系,而且这种影响是长期的。
  • 长期生活在父母关系紧张的环境中,婴儿会出现大脑早期发育不良,睡眠受到干扰;儿童会出现焦虑;青少年则会出现抑郁等一些列问题。
  • 父母在离婚或分居前、期间以及之后的各种争吵对孩子产生伤害,并不是离婚或是分居事件本身。
  • 冷战,关系不好也会增加孩子情感、行为等方面的负面风险。
  • 孩子会根据以往的经验来判断,此次吵架会不会升级,有没有可能会波及到他们。
  • 父母关系不好还会”遗传到下一代”。孩子学大人,‘代代相传’。因此,如果想要今天的孩子幸福积极的成长就需要打破这种恶性循环。

BBC(2nd, Apr, 2018)  How parents’ arguments really affect their children

BBC 中文网: 父母吵架伤害的不止是感情 还有孩子的健康

 

BBC 委托专家研究:Prof Gordon Harold is the Andrew and Virginia Rudd professor of psychology and director, Rudd Centre for Adoption Research and Practice at the University of Sussex.

 

He recently published a comprehensive review of research in this field in the The Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, which you can read online along with a detailed bibliography.

复活节法国滑雪记攻略

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周五晚19:42 欧洲之星火车从伦敦St Pancras 出发。每周往返一次的这个列车第二天早直达法国阿尔卑斯山区三峡谷(Les Trois Vallées)和“Espace Killy“几个著名滑雪胜地故有滑雪列车(ski train)之称。

 

火车全满座。都是一家大小趁英国春假来滑雪的。座椅略比英国火车舒服。虽然不能躺,但一晚凑合。

 

去法国滑雪,来回火车应该是最佳选择。头尾两晚在火车上过夜,一周假期实际有8天可滑雪。周五晚出发,一周后周六晚返回 – 周日早到伦敦。

 

前往三峡谷在前一站Moûtiers下车。早6点火车到达终点站Bourg St Maurice, 转大巴或包车上山 – Espace Killy, 大概30公里一小时左右。来回大巴票20几欧。

 

而飞机相比就比较鸡肋了。一般周六早飞,需要提前到机场。基本周五晚也不怎么睡的好。从机场中转到滑雪场还要4小时左右。基本周六一天就在路上了。

 

2

Espace Killy 跨越3个峡谷,包括 Tignes(蒂涅) and Val-d’Isère(瓦勒迪泽尔) 两个村。而 Tignes 分成三个居住点。Val Claret 最高海拔2100米,Le Lac 是Tignes 中心, 海拔1800米,再低一点的是1550米。Espace Killy曾举办1992冬奥会高山滑雪项目。

 

Espace Killy 共有300公里有保养的滑雪道,78条缆车。一张缆车票ski pass 通用。缆车票成人日票57欧,6天285欧(2018), 儿童6天200欧。

3

车到Le Lac。车站边就是旅行中心。先寄存行李 (2欧)。吃过早餐,买了ski pass, 去取网上预定好的滑雪器材。脱下来的靴子鞋子先放店里,晚上再取。如果为此再去行李寄存,不但还要再跑一趟,还要算另外行李。

 

然后… 然后就可以开滑了。

 

我们在skimium.com预订的器材。有迪卡浓Decathlon卡还有附加折扣。Skimium到处都有连锁店。在Le Lac这家店Dutch Sport就在Palafour缆车旁边。

 

我中间还因雪靴不合适,去找他们换。把店里同一码的靴子全试了一次,服务甚好。

 

我们还预选随时更换不同器材。中间有两天老大儿子换了雪板玩。这个其实不用预定,在店里随时换更方便。

群山环抱的 Tignes Val Claret

The meaning of ‘I love you’

by Lukasz Laniecki

from https://lukaszlaniecki.quora.com/The-meaning-of-I-love-you

Don’t just say I love you.

Tell them what it means.

When a child says I love you to his / her parent I guess it means one of the following (or a mix):

  • thank you
  • I feel safe with you
  • you give me security
  • I know you don’t want to hurt me
  • I know you care about me
  • I know you didn’t mean to hurt me
  • I’m happy
  • I like to be with you (it feels nice)
  • I like to play with you (it feels nice)
  • I know I can count on you
  • I trust you (I know I may trust you)
  • you showed me that what I say or feel matter to you
  • you care about my needs
  • you showed empathy
  • you tried to undestand
  • you believe me (even though sometimes I like to make things up)
  • you didn’t judge me
  • you accept me
  • you didn’t try to fix me
  • you gave me freedom (with boundaries)
  • you asked me for my opinion
  • you let me make a choice
  • you let me explore
  • you understood that my needs might be different than your needs
  • you didn’t laugh at my imperfections in order to gain popularity among your friends, family members or acquaintances
  • you were honest
  • you hugged me when I needed it
  • you let me be alone when I needed it
  • you prepared my favourite meal
  • you bought me my favorite chewing gum
  • you spent time with me and you were present
  • you didn’t play a know-it-all
  • you were flexible
  • you stood up for me
  • you were patient and gave me time to learn certain things.

通过成长型思维指导孩子阅读

我们一直鼓励强调和孩子一起阅读在他们早期(2岁起)成长的重要性。   从各种宝贵学习经验,我们吸取到的经验都是:多读书读好书。这个是在小学阶段最重要,从小养成良好阅读习惯。   一方面良好的阅读习惯为养成自学研究能力打下坚实基础,另外一方面,大量阅读积累造就阅读理解能力,积累词汇。这个不但在考小升初11+考试方面,英语, 文字理解(verbal reasoning – VR)很重要,而且在解答数学应用题(long math,…

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